“Would You Like To
Avoid People’s Games,
Connect More Authentically With Others,And Get The Rewarding Social Life
You’ve Always Wanted…”
Ifyou’ve ever wanted to TRANSFORM YOURSELF
from shy and socially awkward
into an amazing social leader,
you’reabout to learn information
that will absolutely change your life…
CARLOS XUMA’S DESK: Friday, 5:43 PM.
The one skill that they don’t teach you about in schoolis also the one that will either make you a great success in life, or
I’m going to tell you all about this skill in a second,but first let me ask you a couple questions:
- Have you ever been in a social situation where youjust knew someone was messing with you,but you didn’t know what to do about it?
- Have you ever had someone in your family that justknew exactly how to put you on the spot – and they’d leave you withthat shaky, angry feeling because youknew you’d been made a fool out of?
- Have you ever known a person who could just predicteverything you were going to say, and leave you with no ammo at all,and you felt like you were totally manipulated? And FRUSTRATED?
- Did you ever suspect there are unwritten “rules” tosocializing that you just don’t “get”? That if you just knew the”rules” that these people are using for their games, you could at leastbe on a level playing field?
- Do you ever feel like you’ve missed opportunitieswith somebody – maybe a romantic interest – because you don’thave the right skills to respond correctly and make theinteraction “count” for more?
- Do you often feel like you’re missing a depth and alevel of relationship connection that youwant to achieve because you don’t understand how to get past yourpartner’s games?
Now, on the other hand, have you ever been with someonewho:
- Could de-fuse any confrontation andmake friends in the process?
- Could spot when they were being playedor manipulated – and somehow turn it back around on the other person?
- Always knew the right thing to say toput someone in their place?
- Knew how to read a social situation injust a few seconds and “feel out” everyone in the group?
I always wanted to be that person.
I was so shy growing up that I never really got anunderstanding of social dynamics the way some people seemed to. Theyalways seemed so natural with it, too, which made it even harder tobelieve that I’d ever figure it out.
A long while back, I remember going to a singles party where everyone was really uptight and hard to talk to. I felt a little uncomfortable because it felt like they weren’t really there to meet people and have fun.
You might recognize some of the clues I saw of weird “gamey” behavior at this party:
- A lot of the guys were very aggressive and insecure…
- Many of the women seemed guarded and distant – and I found myself suckered into buying drinks – without getting any phone numbers…
- A lot of people seemed to push emotional buttonson me like I was a remote control…
- Almost no one there seemed like they were there to have a good time… they all seemed to have an agenda.
You probably figured this out already, but what I felt and didn’t recognize until later was this:
“Everyone WasPlaying Me!
And PlayingSocial Games With Me…”
The experience felt so awful at the time, and the people seemed so difficult, mostly because I didn’t know how to handle it when people played social games with me. The party probably wasn’t as bad as I remember it, but my social skills were.
And I’ve still found people like this lurking almost everywhere in my life. At work, at the bars and clubs, at parties and social gatherings… even at family gatherings.